Abortion in Islam

The scholars all agree that abortion is forbidden after the first four months of pregnancy, since by that time the soul has entered the embryo but it would allow the use of RU486 (the "morning-after pill"), as long as it could be reasonably assumed that the fertilized egg has not become implanted on the wall of the uterus. Most scholars say that abortion is legal under Islamic Shari'ah (law), when done for valid reasons and when completed before the soul enters the embryo. To abort a baby for such vain reasons as wanting to keep a woman’s youthful figure, are not valid.

Some Muslims argue that the only case when aborting a fetus, before or after 120 days, is allowed in Islam, is when a medical situation threatens the life of the mother, leaving only two options, to let either the other or the fetus survive, but not both. Scholars argue that such a case can only be determined by a specialist, trusted and committed Muslim doctor. They argue that the mother can have other children, whereas the child cannot make up for losing the mother.

A friend of mine has four kids,the older is five years old, and the youngest is one year old. She found out that she was pregnant and made up her mind to abort the baby in her 3rd week of pregnancy.
I couldn't advise her because many people try hardly to get pregnant but never get the chance to do so, but I also understands what is she going through.

Check out this lovely song

Can’t Take It With You
Words by Zain Bhikha & Abdul Malik Ahmad.Melody by Zain Bhikha Performed by Zain Bhikha, Dawud Wharnsby Ali & Abdul Malik Ahmad
Chorus No You Can’t Take It with You When You Go Oh No You Can’t Take It with You When You Go Can’t Understand Why You Keep Holding On Just Cos You Can’t Take It With you, No You Can’t Take It with You Yes, You Can’t Take It with You When You Go, Oh When You Go Verse 1 I See You Pride Yourself In Your New Car Chatting On Your Compact Nokia And You Love Your Expensive Clothes But You Can’t Take It With You When You Go, Oh When You Go Chorus Verse 2 No You Can’t Take Your Big Screen TV Nor your Variety Of DVDs No You Can’t Take You Designer Shoes Everything You Have, You Gonna Lose Chorus Verse 3 Cos there’s One Thing That Matters, When You Walking Down That Street Is the Good and Bad You Sent Forth, In Your Book of Deeds So Make Sure That You’re Ready, To Receive It in Your Right Hand And Take Your Place among the Righteous Of Man Chorus Rap You plan to be richer,you stash to be bigger. But man get the picture, you can’t take it with ya. Your cell phones, head phones, flat screens, ring tones, Big homes, gemstones, power from big loans, collections of new shoes, Connections of Bluetooth, vacations where you cruise the young ones go OOH! You go shop for robots or gold watch or what not. Your CDs of hip hop, your lap tops. Just STOP! & let go. When you die say bye-bye. What is best is inside. Fill the scale up with deeds so you best when you part, Put the wealth in your hand; take it out of your heart. Give thanks for the wealth that your Lord will bestow. But no! That you can’t take it with you when you go.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8dtSRvyfxc4

What would you do if this was your last day being alive?

Did this idea ever crossed your mind?

What would you do if this was your last day being alive?

Seriously, won’t you go to the people you were unfair with them, ask for forgiveness, or spend your hole day praying whatever prayers you missed, or would you wear Hijab at that time.
Why won’t we use the advantage of being alive and do the right thing, what Allah created us to do. Don’t be fooled by life, it is short and not worth it.

Life as a tree's shadow under which passengers may rest,but they will keep going sooner or later.

The phases of human development...indeed it's the truth

" And indeed We created man (Adam) out of an extract of clay (water and earth). (12) Thereafter We made him (the offspring of Adam) as a Nutfah (mixed drops of the male and female sexual discharge and lodged it) in a safe lodging (womb of the woman). (13) Then We made the Nutfah into a clot (a piece of thick coagulated blood), then We made the clot into a little lump of flesh, then We made out of that little lump of flesh bones, then We clothed the bones with flesh, and then We brought it forth as another creation. So Blessed is Allâh, the Best of creators " Quran, 23:12-14
Professor Keith Moore is a worldwide reputable acientist in the field of anatomy and embryology and author of "The Developing Human"that was translated to eight different languages.He was asked to give his opinionabout some Quranic verses and Prophetic Hadith that concern his line of specialty from a scientific point of view.He was quite surprised when he heard these Quranic verses and Prophetic Hadith and said :"How could Prophet Muhammad come up with these phases of embryonic development fourteen hundred years ago when science only discovered them 30 years ago?".

I read that article and thought of sharing a part of it with you.

My daily life as a Muslim Lady..what a busy life!!Buzzzzzzzzzzz

Being a Muslim, I believe that Allah will hold me responsible for my actions on Judgment Day. Mentioned below is my daily schedual, it may change a little in weekends or summer vocation, but it will still have the main aspects.


My day goes like this:



• I wake up for Morning Prayer at 4:30AM, wash and pray, then go back to sleep.

• Wake up again at 7:00AM,usually my baby girl wake up at that time, so I give her a bath, get her dressed, and call my other two kids, asking them to get ready for school.

• Eventually, my two kids get ready to school. Until it is time for them to leave, I start cleaning and organizing the house. While they walk outside the door, I pray for Allah to keep them safe as Allah never waste any deposits.

• I get a cup of coffee while I go online and take my French class. My baby girl plays around while I am studying.

• I wash and pray AL Doha Prayer.

• Get dressed at almost 9:30AM and do the grocery.

• Come back home at 11:00 AM and start preparing launch.

• By 12PM, I pray Al Duhor Prayer and go downstairs to pick my kids up.

• Give my kids a bath as soon as they walk inside the house and get them dressed. I teach English, so it should be the time for the student to arrive and get the lesson. I teach her for 45 minutes. My kids sit next to me and listen carefully with joy.

• It is 1:00 PM now and the kids are feeling hungry, so I go back to the kitchen and make sure that launch is ready. By 1:30PM, they start having launch.

• The house is a disaster after launch, so I ask them to go inside their room for half an hour, they take their younger sister and play inside while I rinse the dishes and floor, rube the oven, and clean the dust.

• By 3:00PM, I pray Al Aser then ask my kids weither they like to stay home and play or go out to the park- it also depends on the weather, we usually stay home if it is so hot or dusty-so they may choose going out. We start doing school homework and play a little.

• By 4:30PM, they eat a snack and get ready to go outside for having fun, so we walk to the park, get some ice cream, meet some neighbors in the park and let the kids play.

• We walk back home at 6:00PM.They washes their feet, hands, and face. Put on their Pajamas on. I wash and pray Magrib. Dinner is prepared at that time. They can watch TV while having dinner. Afterward, we sit together and read Quran for 20 minute.

• By 7:30PM, they brush their teeth and get ready to go for bed. It is story time, so I read them a story and some Quran. Wish them lovely dreams and walk outside the room with my baby girl.

• Isha prayer has come by that time, so I pray Isha.

• My husband comes home and gets his launch.

• We sit together and watch TV for a while. My baby girl feels sleepy so I put her in bed around 8:30 - 9:00PM.

• I do the dishes once more, and clean the bathrooms. Make sure the house is organized. I sit with my husband and hold either a book or my laptop.

• Go to bed and fix my Alarm for morning pray.

• Usually I wake up at 2:00AM to pray night prayers-which is confirmed Sunnah.Go back to sleep after half an hour.

****This is my normal day without having guests or going out with my husband. It usually changes in case of circumstances.

Islam combines both;spirituale and materail aspects of life.

    It is normal to see believers of a certain principle testifying to it.However,to find others stand in appreciation for such a principle and verify it is a proof of its superiority and highness.Allah said :(And those who have been given the knowledge which was sent down to you from your lord see thyat it is the truth).

• I.S.Wrestler ; He is a contemporary French researcher and lecturer at Islamic institute in Paris.He wrote : "Islam endeavors to relieve misery, cruelty, superstitions, and help the weak and needy people. It commendsbenevolence and mercy. In its legislations, it sets rules for even the minor details regarding every day dealings, it also organizes contracts and inheritance.

• Thomas Carlyle ; He is a well known English writer who was found of heroism and traced heroes on different fields. He wrote a book entitled "Heroes" with a whole section on prophet Muhammad PBUH.

• Hanutu ; The former French Minister of Foreign Affairs said: Islamhas crossed and spread thoughout all the boundaries of this earth. It is the only religion which people strongly tend to embrace unlike other religions.

• Dr.Sydney Fisher ; He is a history lecturer at Ohio University (USA) and has conducted many studies about matters related to Eastern countries,he said :" The Qur'an is a book of education and culture and is not confined only to religious duties and obligations.The virtues that Islam calls Muslims to are among the best and highly valued regarding ethics and morals".

Does not interfere with none of your business

Once, a woman came over to my house, it was the first time we meet. After offering her a cup of coffee, she started asking me questions; how much is my husband's salary, how long has my coaches been used before I bought them, do I go along with my mother in law!!!

People kill me when they ask so much about everything, all the details, although it is obvious that you do not want to talk about these subjects with them.

I try not to be rude, so I answer shortly or changes the subject somehow.


The Prophet said, “From the excellence of one’s Islam is to
leave that which does not concern him.”
One of the best ways of dealing with such intruders is by responding to a question by another question, or changing the topic altogether, thereby making him forget the question he asked. For example, if he were to ask you, “How much monthly salary do you make?” you could reply jokingly with a smile, “Why do you ask? Have you found a luring job for me?” If he says, “Not really, I just wanted to know”, you could say, “Salaries these days are a great problem. It seems to be caused by high oil prices!” He might then say, “Well, what do oil prices have to do with salaries?”

You could then say, “Oil prices are what determine other prices. Don’t you see that wars happen because of it?” He may say, “No. That is not true. There are other reasons for wars. The world is full of wars nowadays…” Thus, he would forget about his initial question.

mama,Forgive me

I had a period in my life in which I never obeyed mama or even listened to her advise...I acted as if she wasn't there...I pushed her to the limit...My friends meant everything to me in that time, they were my priority-but guess what, I never stopped praying or fasting, I just felt like hanging out with my friends all the time.


I do cry a lot for these days...I cry because I made my LOVELY MAM cry...when I look back at these actions now, I feel like those were night mares, How could I? Off course, my Mama forgives me, but she still cries when she remembers those days. I know one thing; Time repeats itself, meaning my daughter will act that way one day.

I did ask for her forgiveness repeatedly, and I still do. I regret a lot, cry a lot, and pray for Allah to forgive me.



• Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) mentions in Noble Qur'an:"And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but Him, and goodness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) "Ugh" nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word. And make yourself submissively gentle to them with compassion, and say: O my Lord! Have compassion on them, as they brought me up (when I was) little." Noble Qur'an (17:23-24)



• The Holy Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) says: "Beware! Abstain from angering the parents. The fragrance of Paradise is perceived even at a distance of a thousand years, but those who are disobedient to parents and those who cut off ties with relatives will not be able to smell it."



• Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) says in Hadith al-Qudsi: I swear by My Glory and power that if a (child who is) disobedient to his parents comes to me with all the good deeds of all the prophets; I will not accept them from him

I want to share this song with everyone

I just wanna share this song with everyone,it really made me cry..
It is translated in English

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XQAKF8rMsG0

Due to pair of SOCKS, she got divorced

She called me with tears in her eyes, I asked her why does she sounds sad, and so she replied that she had just got divorced. I felt goose bumps and felt like crying. The have three kids, the older is 6 years old and the youngest is a year and half old.



Next day, I went to check on her, I heard that it all started with a pair of socks. He came back home at the evening, she asked him to take her out to get a pair of socks for her daughter-she has a party to attend and needs a pair of socks to match her dress. He started yelling and she yelled back, so he slapped her. She got her Abaih and veil on, walked toward the door, planning to leave the house, so he yielded telling her not to leave the house and if she did so, she will be divorced. Both of them were stressed out and Satan was doing his best, so she did not care and walked out the door. That is it! She got divorced!

It has been a week and she already feels so lost without him. The kids are driving her crazy, she is left all alone at home with her kids - By the way, it is her 2nd time to get divorced, so he had to leave the house, they can't stay together.



I did advise her not to rush and to look for the good qualities in her husband.



The devil, which is the enemy of Allah, is pleased when you are angry or act foolishly; he reminds us of divorce all the time. It is narrated in the Hadith: "Satan places his throne upon water; then sends detachments (for creating dissension); one of them comes and says: I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between him and his father or between him and his mother or his brothers. Then he (Satan) says: you did nothing. They will make up with one another. Another one comes and says: I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between him and his wife. The Satan goes near him and says : 'You have done well. And He then embraces him and says: You are so and so." [5] Satan is pleased with the breaking up of the family and its destruction.

Altercation between my neighbours

I was shocked and did not knew how to act in the beginning...one of my neighbors (going to name her Zain) phoned me, expressing her sadness. She was looking through the magic eye in her door, while her in front neighbor (going to call her Ola) were standing outside their door, waiting for the elevator-the hole family.


Ola noticed that Zain is spying, and it looks like this is not the first time Ola notice Zain spying, so she yield at her, asking her not to interfere with what does not concern her and this is considered impolite.Zain was totally shocked and started crying. They never talked to each other since that time.

I did palmed Zain for spying, but i did also palmed Ola for over-reacting and yelling at her neighbor.

The physical relationship between husband and wife In Islam

Islamic religion inclusive all life aspects,therefor,Physical relation between husband and wife was covered by Islam in a respectful manner.

Marriage in Islam is imposed on each Muslim adult-as long as he can manage being married or able to get married,either financially or physically. Being married has many goals; obey God's order and the Prophets' manner,starting a family,having kids,raise a new generation of Muslims,fullfilling the sexual desires in pure Halal way(a way that is allowed by Allah).

There are rules for this relation and we should be aware:

• Both,husband and wife should keep themselves clean,smell nice for each other,Removal of armpit and pubic hair is recommended,brushing their teeth or using Zakia(Swak) is also recommended.
• A prayer should be said before starting : In the name of God,Alah let Satan go away from us & from what you gave us.
• Avoid the initiation of having sex in front of children.
• It is prohibited to disclosure what is going on between the couple.
• Prior to engaging in sexual intercourse, it is necessary for the husband to express his affection and love for his wife by touching her, caressing her, and kissing her.
• All movements are allowed except brining the anal.
• Having sex while menstruation is prohibited;The scholars of Islam explained that keeping away and not approaching means that there should be no intercourse during that period. Muhammad used to kiss his wives when they had menses. The husband may enjoy (sexual activity) other than intercourse.

Rationing in water consumption is a MUST in Islam

Islam clarified all life details,including Water consumption..Prophet Mohammad(PBUH) said “Don't waste water even if you are on a running river”.
Once,I was having a nice meal at my friend's house.After we were done eating,we moved dinning stuff back to the kitchen & placed them on the sink.My friend insisted on doing the dishes all by her own.I noticed she never turn the water off while watching the dishes,Seriously,I couldn't tolerate,so I advised her regarding water conservation.Being a little stubborn,she didn't listen to me & kept doing things her way.In Jordan for example,water comes only once per week,meaning that we can't take a bath more than twice/week,or do laundry more than once/week,even sometime we would have no water lift for a couple of days,due to water deficiency.

Did you ever lost your path?

Loosing path is a main key for success.It is really hard to have a main goal.Our goal as Muslims is to attain the pleasure of Allah subhana wa ta'ala.

It takes so much effort to trace the right path in order to achieve our goals.For me,the key to do so,is to keep in mind that Allah is watching me all the time and that I may die suddenly,this helps me focus on my goal and keep in hard work.

Life these days provide us with many opportunities to loose our path,like wasting my time with meaning-less gatherings,watching silly movies,playing online games,going shopping...etc.I don't want to be separated from this world,i just need to spent a little time on these things,instead of wasting my hole day.

The way I arrange my time helps me reaching my goal and prevents me from loosing the path.I do watch TV for mostly half an hour,go out with my friends or family two days per week,go online for useful things,but i also do pray minimum five prayers/day,read Quran,hear Quran,meet my neighbours,cook,teach my kids,work for making money,clean my home,play with my kids,attend Islam classes,take care of my husband,help my friends and support them,call my mam daily,keep in touch with my sister and brothers almost daily...etc.